Happy Mother's Day!

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Happy Mother's Day to all mothers out there.. This year's mother's day i am fortunate to celebrate it with my mother. We bought her a cake and a bluse, then i kind of paksa my sister to pay for another blouse for mama's mother's day..ahaha.. and by the way, we means my little sister and me.

Yang shioknye, i drove to pasar mlm pantai timur (which ada tiap2 hari) to buy those gifts...and at the time i am still in my confinement period... 38 days.. alaa.. kira cincai la.. sikit lagi nak grad dr confinement..hehe..

kek tiramisu from Muhibbah Cake House... besttttt!!!

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by the way, for your guys info, kelantanese confinement is 41 or 43 days only.. so.. apa lagi.. kiranya today aku dah abih pantang la..since today i am 41 days already... hehe.. yahuuu.. ambo doh merdeka! :D

this is the latest picture of my chubbier by the day baby! :)

Another 1 week..

Assalamualaikum..

I'm going to be in KB for another 1 week.. then balik KL.. yeaa... dah rindu sgt kat rumah sendiri, :) tapi sedikit suspen mengenangkan camno la kitaorg nak handle a baby and an active toddler..and the fact that both me and hubby really likes to sleep adds challenge to the task. ahaha.. so, wish us luck guys! huhu..

hmm.. yesterday i received a very-very sad news.. it's a family matter and the news do effect me deeply. I do hope our family ties will still be strong as before this news happens... I do believe everythings that happens do have Hikmah disebaliknya, so... hopefully we can see the silver linings underneath these 'chaos'. Qada & Qadar semuanya di tangan Allah, kan? Hopefully hamba-hambaNya nie beroleh kesabaran dan ketenangan selalu.. ameen.

Layout!

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Ala...aku terupload new layout before doing a back up of my old layout.. abih hilang url blog member2.. huhu..

korang, kalu rajin, tinggal la url blog korang @ the comment ek. tq :)

1 month old!

Assalamualaikum wbt,

My Nadrah is already 1 month old yesterday! Can you believe how time flies.. hehe... i really look forward to next tuesday coz on that day Nadrah is 41 days which means... AIR SEJUK is no longer off limits for me! yeahaa..

This is the picture of nadrah on her 1st month besday :)

and this is the picture of nadrah right after her 1 month injection.. nampak cam muka tak puas hati kan? hehe..

Now, i don't know why i have to upload the below picture actually.. but I am introducing Nadrah and Muaz current nanny...

adik bongsu gue..
nie gambar dia tgh try head band nak beli utk Nadrah..

and the other nannies.. tok wan and wan.. :)

botak!

Assalamualaikum wbt,

This morning Nadrah bercukur...abih botak anak dara i nie.. hehe..sib baik time bercukur tu Muaz belum bgn..kalu tak mesti havoc la since Muaz 'rajin' sgt nak menolong biasanya.. hehe.. lepas botak, my mother said sebijik cam rupa suheimy!! aiseh.. tak nampak girly dah la...

and yesterday, my mother trimmed rambut Muaz... bayangkanlah camna keadaan trim rambut budak 1 tahun 4 bulan yang tgh sgt2 aktif... ngeri gak la nengok gunting and kepala Muaz... outcomenye... abih rambut Muaz, ade yang kontot, ada yang panjang... ahaha... takpela Muaz, janji pendek sikit rambut tu..baru la nampak cam boy.. :) nie gambar sebelum and selepas!

and now, this is some of Muaz's activity yang kitaorg mmg tak tahaaannn nak monitor... MEMANJAT!! huhu...

Saboje la gue dgn teruna macho nie.. :)

@ KB

Assalamualaikum wbt,

I am now suffering my confinement in KB..huhu.. i really hate berpantang.. another 19 days to go.. huhu.. (p/s to ILA: kata nak dtg?? meh la... huhu)

Nadrah sekarang dah GUMUK!!.. hehe.. this is her latest picture.. today she is already 25 days, cepat kan masa berlalu... rase baru je semlm aku meneran Nadrah.. hehe..

anak aku nie mmg suka tido angkat dua-dua belah tangan... ikut sapa ekk..

When we came to KB we did not bring any of Muaz's toys due to byk sgt barang nak bawak... so Suheimy went to buy him toys here, since nak duduk lama kan... sian plak Muaz takde mainan.. so Muaz got a motorcycle, yang boleh gerak sendiri, but since dia takut (more on mama dia yang takut anaknye terbalik..hehe..) so Muaz tolak2 sendiri je la motor tu..

and he also got a few of lorries yang kecik je..

Suheimy already went back to KL yesterday...huhu... rindu betul kat hubby... and he wont be coming back to KB until we all ready to go back to KL which is about 3 weeks from now.. huhu.. lama tuuu... This is the last picture yang aku sempat snap..gambar sekeluarga la kononnye.. tapi budak2 tu tak nampak pun.. muka mama ngan abahnye aje yang besar.. ahaha..

and last but not least..at last i manage to snap a picture of both siblings awake! Muaz siap senyum manis lagi..hehe.. i consider this a big success :D

Alone...

Assalamualaikum wbt..

I felt lonely...Suheimy balik lambat hari nie, which means Muaz pun lambat... my MIL is at kedai.. well, technically i'm not alone becoz Nadrah is with me, but u know babies, they are always asleep or very sleepy, and they don't really response to your comment..huhu..

Tapi sebenarnya, i miss my hubby.

EXAM!

Assalamualaikum wbt,

I had Human Capital xm just now... fuh! lega dah lepas 1, tomorrow is Operation Management xm, then i am merdeka... for now la kan.. ade 3 sem lagi kot, baru la abis master nie.. huhu.. :)

Now i am at the library, waiting for Suheimy.. ala.. cepat la yang, rindu kat Nadrah!.. 1st time tinggal Nadrah nie, sib baik dah byk EBM (expressed breast milk) tinggal kat my MIL... hopefully tak susah la dia jaga Nadrah :)

Kalu sempat nak gak buat research proposal which is due this wednesday... before balik ke kelate... bleh ngak my hubby? suheimy tak berapa bagi coz dia rasa aku psycho sgt nak habiskan master nie cepat2... tapinye, gue ngak tahan lagi pergi kelas malam2... kesian anak2 gue.. huhu.. tu yang aku semangat sgt nak habiskan jugak2 master nie.. semangat2 pun.. setakat amik 2 subject je la 1 sem.. tu pun dah cukup pressure rasanye...

hopefully takde la 'termengandung' lagi sebelum habis master ni... dah 2 org aku beranak time buat master nie.. hehe.. sabo je la..

p/s: i;ve got 2 tags to do and lots of pictures of Nadrah + Muaz to upload.. nanti lepas xm ekkk...

Nadrah & Jaundice

Assalamualaikum wbt,

My Nadrah has jaundice. Actually we went to see paed on Monday, her jaundice count was 223 and the doc give 2 option; to be warded or rent the UV light and treat her at home.

We took the 2nd option, but we have to pay for the machine rental out of our own pocket la.. kalu warded TM bayar.. hehe.. the rental was RM430 for 3 days. Alhamdulillah Nadrah nak duk bawah lampu except for tonight.. dpt dlm 30 mins je kot mlm nie.. huhu...

Tomorrow we have another check up with Dr Atiqah (Nadrah's pead). Hopefully her jaundice is ok by then.

update: Jaundice Nadrah alhamdulillah dah ok, tadi count 181. :D

Welcome Nur Amni Nadrah

Assalamualaikum wbt,

I have savely delivered Nur Amni Nadrah Bt Suheimy on 02 April 2009 @ 9.23pm. She weighted 2.84kg. Betul2 as per budgeted i.e. lepas my last presentation which was on wednesday night.. hehe..

Actually on wednesday we had our 38 weeks check up and i am already 1 cm dialated. Tapi doc said this could take a few days, depending on whether i have contractions or not. So we decided to wait for the contractions. I had mild contraction the whole day so on thursday we went to the hospital and off to labor ward @ 12 pm. But i am still at 1 cm..so apa lagi..induce je lah.. penat la nak tunggu lagi... my contraction started immediately after induce @ 1pm and continued on until baby Nadrah was borned with 3 mighty push later on 9.23 pm... hehe... Alhamdulillah.

p/s: the only time we can take the siblings picture together was when Muaz was asleep. btw, Nadrah dah kena lempang dgn Muaz on the 3rd day! hehe.. well gudluk to Nadrah! :)

staying up.. huhu..

Assalamualaikum wbt,

it is now 12.06 am. I am sleepy and moody and cranky. Assignment still ada 3 lagi belum buat, so i'm staying up to finish at least 1 of them... huhu..

Muaz is being manja terover lately, maybe due to the fact that his baby sister is coming soon. I do hope i deliver soon. However, i am cuak coz i don't know what to expect. Eventhough dah experience delivery twice, but Amni dulu preterm, and tak sakit, doktor cek2 jalan dah 10cm. Muaz dulu kitaorg induce. So i am not sure of apakah tanda2nya you are going into labor. Anyone care to share?

My biggest fear is takut tak sempat sampai hospital... nauzubillah. Kalu tak jam pun, paling cepat we can arrive at Pantai is in 25 mins. plus kena consider time taken to sent Muaz to rumah bbsitter dulu... huhu... cuak sungguh.

Frankly, pregnant kali nie is more painful and harder.. that's why i hope i can deliver soon.. since i am 38 weeks already, so insyaAllah la baby dah cukup matang and healthy kalu deliver pun. But don't get me wrong, camna2 pun, i still love being pregnant! :) and hopefully dipermudahkanNya urusan bersalin nanti..ameen.

Oklah, sambung buat esemen. huhu..

Muaz on joy ride!

Salam,

This picture was taken at Jusco Equine.. maybe last 2 weeks kot. This is the first time Muaz was in a shopping cart. Before this we always put him in stroller where he is strapped securely.

Suheimy punye la susah hati takut dia terjun from the cart.. hehe..

p/s: we feel that our now toddler baby is growing so fast, skarang nie pantang nampak apa2 yang boleh dipanjat, he will smile sweetly to us before proceeding to panjat it. kira cam mintak consent kot.. sabo je la.

COMEL!

Salam,

Look at this round thingy... i think that it is soo sweet, makes me want to smile when i look at it.

It belongs to a good friend of mine, he hubby gave it to her as anniversary present (along with a big bouquet of roses + lilies). And she did not even gave him a card...yet. Sabo je la kawan aku nie...

RRM team building lagi..

Salam,
This is some of the photos from RRM team building (yes..the one i couldn't go!) I told you they will have a blast... huhu.. jeles sungguh..

p/s: there's a video of my bos singing and dancing.. tapi tak boleh bukak plak.. nanti kalau boleh bukak i will upload it. You guys would not believe this is my bos! heheh...

How in the world can i change my blog layout?!

Salam,

I;ve tried lots of time to change my blog layout by taking blog skin from various links, but everytime there are errors! huh!

Any IT savvy people who is free out there that can help me out??! huhu...

Nak ikut... huhu..

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Today all exec in my office went for team building @ Lumut Perak. Semenye ceria and excited... but i can't go... got exam tomorrow + perut dah buncit sgt...

Huhu... nak ikut.... mesti best depa berpoya2 kat sana. Fyi, my officemates are all outgoing and fun people + kitaorg almost 90% girls and we are quite close... so i think the team building will be a blast! ...

Guys, do take a lot of pictures! :(

Walking Muaz! :D

Assalamualaikum wbt,


Muhammad muaz officially dah boleh berjalan! kiranya setahun 2 bulan la anak aku nie boleh jalan..

suka tgk dia jalan, sometimes still terhuyung hayang, tapi he never give up, asal jatuh je, terus bangun and sambung jalan... :)

well, tu je perkembangan terkini! hehe..


Gambar Muaz first time berjalan in public place :) time nie dekat Giant kinrara, play ground yang kitaorg selalu pegi bile take turn nak solat.

My first tag! :D

Pertama : Copy badge "2008 cute's 3logger Award" di atas untuk diletakkn di blog anda

Kedua: Link dan ceritakan kembali siapa yang memberi award ini kpd anda.

Mas : junior kat opis aku nie, single but not available... soon to be not so single (betul tak mas?!) hehe..

Ketiga: Setiap blogger mesti menyatakan 10 fakta /hobi diri sendiri sebelum memilih penerima award seterusnya (anda di tag).
1. dah kawin
2. suamiku is the hensemest man in the world! (in my eyes!) hehe..
3. skarang ni tgh cuak sbb tak lama lagi dah nak due
4. suka tgk ANTM and grey's anatomy
5. selalu sedih bile amik Muaz (my baby) lambat.. huhu.. kadang2 smpai nangis..

6. tgh teringin nak makan gulai ketam masak lemak cili padi, tapi ketam tu nak ketam fresh! huhu...
7. tingin nak jadi full time house wife yang ade side income.. hmmm...
8. penakut sgt dgn kucing! huhu..
9. tgh berangan nak buat auto gate utk rumah... mintak2 la murah rezeki! :)
10. hobi - suka tido n makan

Ke Empat : Pilih 5 penerima award seterusnya dan nyatakan di blog anda.
1) mar
2) siti

3) ana

4) ...
5) ... ntah, tak ramai la member yang selalu update blog.. hehe..

MC...

Assalamualaikum wbt,

I am currently on a 7 days MC, courtesy of Dr Idora after i complained about some mild contraction, my gyne said maybe it's braxton hicks or UTI...

bestnye 7 hari rehat, tapi yang tak syioknye, night class still kena pegi since i got a presentation and subject lagi satu tu dah 3 minggu tak pegi.. bukan sbb ponteng tapi sbb dah 3 minggu berturut2 public holidays falls on Monday! :D

Anyway, during this MCs, aku berazam utk study and do some of my assignments... so far, 4th day into my MC, i only manage to read half of an article... tu je! ahaha... time2 lain aku tido n tgk tv! well, MCs are meant for relax and resting anyway.. right?! hehe..

I miss my Amni

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Last night i miss my Amni so much. Actually yesterday we decided on this coming baby's name... NUR AMNI NADRAH. After deciding the name, it hit me that we are going to have another Amni in the family, skarang nie, kalau ckp pasal Amni je, we are referring to our beloved, solehah twins.. but now, there's going to be another Amni in the family.

I am afraid of the thought that we might eventually forgot about our beautiful twins.. Our Nur Amni Izzah & Nur Amni Izzati. It has been nearly 4 years since their passing. I do admits that i have forgetten some of the little details, despite trying as hard as i can, i can't remember actually how they smells, but i know jenazah Amni berbau harum sgt... but i just can remember exactly macam mana baunya. I can't remember the feeling Amni's kicking my belly during my pregnancy, i can't remember how their skin felt when Amni Izzah tries to hold my finger... and so on..

The image is still there, but sometimes it gets very vague... and i am afraid that i might forget. I dont want to forget, i refuse to forget. I have a twin baby, eventhough it was only for 3 days, but they are our babies, dunia and akhirat.

Ya Allah, mudah2an terpelihara ingatan kami terhadap Amni dan mudah2an kami dapat bertemu kembali dengan Amni-amni kami di akhirat nanti..InsyaAllah. Ameen.

5th Anniversary holiday @ Pengkalan Balak

Assalamualaikum wbt,


Last Saturday was our 5th anniversary, can u believe it, dah 5 tahun kitaorg kawin..hehe.. rase cam sekejap je.. :)


We went to Melaka kononnye sempena anniversary holiday but the real reason was coz aku ngidam nak makan Nasi Ayam Malaysia yang cuma ade kat Melaka.. dulu time aku blaja kat MMU, selalu makan nasi ayam nie bile nak balik kampung.. kat Plaza Hang Tuah, sekarang restoren tu dah berpindah ke Melaka Sentral - info courtesy dari google! hehe.. sib baik la ade Google, kalu tak puas la aku nak mencari restoren Nasi Ayam Malaysia nie..


Well, celebrate anniversary kali nie tak la terasa sgt coz kitaorg lebih sibuk melayan muaz + aku penat sgt coz of the journey and dah sarat skarang nie.. huhu.. but we did manage to talk (time Muaz tido) about our married life, kenang balik time berchenta2 dulu and future life together... i do enjoy private conversation with my husband :)


Chalet Darul Aslah tu best la jugak, bukak je pintu beranda terus nampak laut, lupa nak snap gambar dari beranda.. and yang penting, sgt bersih. Mlm tu kitaorg makan ikan bakar - sedap & murah, again tak snap gambar sbb lapar sgt2.. huhu.. mmg licin kitaorg makan - ikan siakap, kupang, sotong, sayur kailan & air buah RM43 je! cuma draw backnye kucing2 kat restoren tu semua hard core, siap panjat2 kaki org lagi mintak makanan..psycho betul aku... aku nie takut giler kat kucing! huhu...


Below are some of the pictures from our vacation.. nampak tak Muaz dah ade 4 batang gigi! hihi.. gigi dia naik 4 btg dlm masa 2 minggu je kot... :)



Thanks Sayang for the trip! :) hopefully rumah tangga kami akan sentiasa tenang and penuh berkat dunia & akhirat. Ameen.

Training 2 KLCC

Assalamualaikum,

Urgh! i am attending a 2 weeks training @ KLCC. The training is good but the location is dreadful. Early morning dah cium ketiak org dlm packed LRT, then the walk towards menara 2, and @ lunch time, the expensive meals! huhu..

But the worse part is using only bidet in the toilet... me no like!!.. Dah la skarang nie asyik nak pi toilet je.. lebat kot rambut anak aku nie.. :)

And the Verdict is... It's a GIRL!!

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Yesterday i went to Dr Idora @ Pantai for my 24 weeks check-up. Canggih sungguh ultrasound Dr Idora, siap nampak blood vessel, then dia siap buat 3D scan, and the monitor is huge, like a 19" screen monitor!

And semlm nampak la gender baby.. it's a GIRL! tak sangka sungguh coz i had a dream that this baby is going to be a boy.. :) Alhamdulillah.. So, terjawab la persoalan yang suheimy selalu tanye kat baby "nie nak baju banyak ke nak baju sikit nie?" .. hehe, baju sikit means pakai baju abg Muaz je la...

To Suheimy, " nak baju banyak la abah!! " hehe..

Like her belated sisters, Nur Ami Izzah & Nur Amni Izzati, this baby's name will start with Nur Amni too, I like Nur Amni Izni, what do you guys think? :)

My birthday! :D

Assalamualaikum wbt,

My 29th birthday was on last Wednesday -17th Dec. As a rule of thumb, me and hubby will take our annual leave to celebrate special occasions - birthdays and anniversary! :)

17th Dec happenings:

• On 12.01 am, hubby gave me a big hug and wish me birthday
• in the morning, we went back to sleep after Subuh prayer.. and only woke up around 9.30.. itupun sbb Muaz dah bangun and dah merangkak all over us.. hehe..
• keluar rumah around 10.30, sent muaz to baby sitter and then we went to mid valley
• bought movie ticket- the day the earth stood still and then pg makan nasik! lapar giler dah time tu coz tak brekpes.
• after the movie, we went shopping for baju muaz (err.. kenapa besday aku tapi muaz yang dpt baju.. aku pun tak tau). and i choose a sandal as my besday present.. very comfortable.. thanks sayang! :)
• The next day at the office, hubby suprise me with a basket of flowers delivered to the office.. tak sangka nak dpt flower delivery.. huhu..

Anyway, i truly treasure our tradition of taking leave for special occasions like this. Hopefully we can maintain the tradition sampai tua.. InsyaAllah.

Thanks to friends and family who wishes me happy birthday, thanks to bos coz bagi mug + ferrore roche..and a very special thanks to Suheimy Md Yusof, my guardian angel, the love of my life.

Welcome Arman Mikael Bin Suhaizan

Assalamualaikum wbt,

I've been meaning to upload Arman Mikael (tak sure la spelling betul ke salah) dari hari lahir dia lagi.. tapi, biasa la, asyik terlupa bawak card reader and kat rumahbaik la aku ngadap En Muhammad Muaz dari ngadap PC :). Arman mikael was born on 7th November 2008 @ Prince Hospital Ampang, hospital tu canggih, biliknya cam hotel! :)

Anyway, this is Arman Mikael, a new addition to my MIL's family - cucu ke 6 (kalu diambil kira my Baby Amni) . Hensem and hidungnye sangat laaa mancung. When this picture was taken, mikael is only 1 day old.

HAPPY 1st BIRTHDAY MUAZ!

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Yesterday was Muaz 1st birthday and the birthday boy is having fever + batuk + sakit mata... huhu.. cian agt dia!

We bought him kereta for hadiah besday since it's his passion, sebenarnya Muaz suka sgt main tayar kereta.. so kitaorg beli kereta yang tayarnye mmg besar macam monster truck tu! :)

Anyway, since pak Man and mak Anne came on Saturday, we celebrate sikit2 on Saturday.. i made him a carrot cake! tapi tak menjadi sgt..ahaha... that's about it la.. then budak2 tu main je lebih... :)

Muaz latest progress:

1. makin manja + Sensitif! napa agaknye ek...
2. dah boleh berdiri sendiri... but still tak melangkah lagi.. usahalah!!
3. dah pandai tunjuk apa yang dia nak
4. getting taller and bigger! huhu... anakku dah besar..

Skarang nie aku dah ckp2 ngan suheimy.. " anak kita dah besar, nanti dia dah nak kawin... huhu..." and suheimy would reply... "nanti la.. tunggu dia jalan dulu ek.." Psycho tak... hehe..

On a more serious note; Alhamdulillah, kami bersyukur sgt dah setahun jadi perents of Muhammad Muaz dan Alhamdulillah juga semua urusan kami dipermudahkanNya. Mudah2an semua kawan2 kami berpeluang merasa nikmatnya menjadi parents. Ameen.

Family Day Suheimy! :)

muaz in ihram - fashion showmuaz & mama dia yang kepingin nak terjunkolam, tgh2 hari buta! ahaha

Assalamualaikum,

We went for Suheimy's family day at Guoman Resort PD, despite my macho hubby is running down with fever.. ehehe.. nak tido hotel punye pasal. Anyway, alhamdulillah, sampai je kat PD, demam Suheimy kebah and we had a blast! It was the first time Muaz ever played in a swimming pool and his mama tiba2 je dpt swimming suit muslimah baru ( kepingin bangat gue nak masuk itu swimming pool! )

It was also the first time i mingled with Suheimy's office mate, which is mostly womens.. hehe.. ok la, nak kena berbaik dgn opis mate dia..

Bencana Kejahilan Intimasi Suami Isteri

Assalamualaikum wbt,

I found this article via susuibu.com website. It is from saifulislam. I think this article should be read and understand by all married person. So.. just doing my part to share. Happy reading!

Bencana Kejahilan Intimasi Suami Isteri

“Cuba ustaz fikir, semasa isteri saya mengandung, kami tidak berhubungan sehingga 7 bulan!” keluh seorang lelaki kepada saya.
“Berat tu. Macam-macam benda boleh jadi,” saya menjawab.
“Ya. Separuh gila saya dibuatnya,” katanya lagi.
Benar… tidak mudah untuk kaum lelaki diajak berbincang tentang rumahtangga mereka. Justeru saya tidak mengajak, namun cuba memenuhi permintaan apabila diajak. Perbualan secara personal, lebih memberi keselesaan.
Tugas saya pula bukanlah untuk menyelesaikan masalah rumahtangga sesiapa. Malah seorang kaunselor profesional juga tidak bertanggungjawab menyelesaikannya. Tetapi perbualan seperti ini, berfungsi untuk meleraikan kekusutan fikiran dan mengatur pandangan tentang hal-hal yang sudah kelam pandangan di atas bahu pemikulnya. Tindakan penyelesaian harus dilakukan sendiri oleh mereka yang berdepan dengan masalah itu.
BENCANA KETIKA BERPANTANG
“… Isteri-isteri kalian itu adalah sebagai pakaian bagi kalian dan kalian pula sebagai pakaian bagi mereka…” [Al-Baqarah 2: 187]
Terlalu banyak kes yang berlaku, rumahtangga dipukul badai semasa isteri mengandung dan berpantang. Ada masanya, seorang suami tidak dapat mengadakan hubungan intim dengan isterinya pada suatu tempoh yang amat panjang atas sebab yang pelbagai.
Ada isteri yang alah kepada bau suami semasa mengandung! Besar sungguh ujiannya.
Ada isteri yang dingin dan hilang keinginan tatkala dirinya berbadan dua. Suami menderita dan dirinya bersahaja.
Dan tidak dinafikan suami dan isteri ‘tidak berpengetahuan’ tentang kaedah-kaedah yang diharuskan oleh Syara’ untuk mereka bersama dalam keadaan diri yang terbatas.
PENGETAHUAN TENTANG SEKS
“Berhentilah melucahkan seks!”, banyak kali saya cuba mempopularkan terma ini.
Melucahkan seks bermaksud menjadikan seks sebagai subjek yang taboo, menjadi bahan ketawa dan senyum senget atas pelbagai persepsi mengenainya. Malah mungkin dianggap ‘gatal’ atau ‘gelenyar’ mengikut istilah Pantai Timur, tatkala seks mahu diperkatakan.
Lebih buruk, apabila seks menjadi bahan gurau senda dan bahan ketawa, hingga hilang kehormatan dan maruah subjek seks untuk ia diajar dan dipelajari.
Besar kekhuatiran dalam fikiran saya, memikirkan betapa peraturan-peraturan intimasi antara suami dan isteri menjadi subjek yang terlalu asing dari kita. Fikirkanlah bagaimana seorang suami yang jahil tentang kaedah intimasi mereka, berdepan dengan situasi yang menghalang mereka daripada mengadakan hubungan intimasi dek keterbatasan pengetahuan tentang cara, pilihan dan ruang-ruang yang diberikan oleh Islam.
Isteri mengandung.
Isteri berpantang dengan nifas.
Suami yang lemah tenaga batin.
Suami yang keletihan akibat tekanan kerja.
Kesemua situasi ini merupakan rutin atau masalah biasa yang mendatangi kehidupan berumahtangga dari semasa ke semasa. Bagaimanakah keadaan hubungan suami isteri, jika timbul sahaja keadaan seperti ini, mereka mengalah daripada melaksanakan salah satu maksud perkahwinan iaitu memenuhi naluri seksual seorang lelaki dan perempuan?
Ini belum mengambil kira soal tiadanya ransangan-ransangan yang sepatutnya menjadi hiasan hubungan antara suami dan isteri.
Isteri siang malam berbaju kelawar bertepek muka dengan bedak sejuk, tangan berbau bawang dan sanggul senget benget berikat gelung getah kuning. Suami pula selekeh dengan singlet Pagoda®, berkain pelekat, berbau hapak dan berjanggut berjambang tidak dikemas.
Apakah nilai rumahtangga yang ada pada suami dan isteri seperti ini?
‘SUNNAH OLEH PELACUR SIAM’
Terkenang saya kepada perbualan saya beberapa tokoh masyarakat yang peduli akan hal ini. Salah seorangnya menceritakan kepada saya bagaimana beliau pernah menjalankan siasatan tentang modus operandi pelacur-pelacur Siam yang ada di negara kita.
“Ustaz tahu apa yang pelacur itu buat?” tanya beliau kepada saya.
“Emm, manalah saya tahu!”, saya ketawa kecil memikirkan kepelikan soalan yang ditanya.
“Semasa menerima pelanggan, perkara pertama yang dilakukan oleh pelacur itu ialah memandikan pelanggannya hingga bersih. Siapa yang buat perkara ini?” tanya beliau kepada saya.
“Isteri Rasulullah sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam,” saya memahami maksud beliau.
“Selepas dimandi, pelacur Siam ini mengetip kuku pelanggannya hingga kemas dan bersih. Siapa yang buat perkara ini?” tanyanya lagi.
“Juga isteri baginda”, saya menambah.
“Itulah isunya. Segala bentuk layanan intimasi yang diajar oleh Sunnah, tidak pernah diamalkan dalam rumahtangga orang kita. Siapa yang amalkan Sunnah itu? Pelacur Siam!!!” kata beliau dengan penuh tegas.
“Semasa menerima pelanggan, perkara pertama yang dilakukan oleh pelacur itu ialah memandikan pelanggannya hingga bersih. Siapa yang buat perkara ini?” tanya beliau kepada saya.“Isteri Rasulullah sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam,” saya memahami maksud beliau.
“Mereka belajar di kuil Siam, teknik-teknik melayan lelaki mengikut legasi yang ada dalam budaya mereka,”, kongsi beliau dengan saya.
ILMU YANG TERPINGGIR
Bencana sungguh hal ini. Kaedah-kaedah suami melayan isteri dan isteri melayan suami, dirakam dengan baik, penuh kehormatan dan terpeinci di dalam Sunnah Nabi Muhammad sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, tetapi mahukah kita mempelajarinya? Malah sebelum itu, bagaimanakah persepsi kita tentang hal ini?
Semua itu adalah sebahagian daripada Sunnatullah yang memenuhi naluri manusia. Sunnatullah itu begitu, siapa buat dia dapat, siapa tinggal, terimalah akibat!
Jika isteri di rumah tidak peduli akan hal ini, tanpa mawaddah dan rahmah, bagaimana mungkin kita menolak kemungkinan suami mencari yang lain?
Jika suami tidak peduli akan keperluan isterinya, hanya memikirkan kepuasan diri sendiri, maka tanpa mawaddah dan rahmah dalam sebuah rumahtangga, bagaimana mungkin kita menolak kemungkinan isteri terbabit dalam pelbagai skandal yang menjijikkan?
Kita mempromosi perkahwinan sebagai jalan untuk mencegah zina, tetapi bagaimanakah rumahtangga yang tidak berfungsi dalam memenuhi naluri suami dan isteri boleh mencegah zina? Akhirnya calon penzina yang dihukum sebat oleh Islam, membiak menjadi calon penzina yang dihukum rejam hingga mati! Penzina dari kalangan lelaki dan perempuan yang sudah berumahtangga!
ANTARA HAK DAN PERANAN
Namun, semua ini sulit untuk berfungsi dengan baik di dalam sebuah rumahtangga apabila masing-masing bercakap tentang hak dan bukannya peranan. Siapakah yang bisa menunaikan hak isteri jika suami menolak peranan dengan alasan letih, sibuk, atau dengan celanya memberikan alasan “mana ada Tuhan laknat suami yang menolak isteri!” Astaghfirullah al-Adheem.
Siapakah yang bisa menunaikan hak suami jika isteri menolak peranan dengan alasan letih, alah, mengandung, berpantang dan lain-lain?
Akan tetapi jika suami dan isteri kembali kepada konsep hidup memberi, dan lebih memikirkan peranan berbanding hak yang diminta tunai itu, maka suami akan memainkan peranannya, walaupun sekadar untuk memenuhi keperluan isteri dan tidak dirinya. Seorang isteri akan memainkan peranannya, walaupun sekadar untuk memenuhi keperluan suami dan tidak dirinya.
Panduannya mahu dicari di mana?
Jangan taip di Google secara semberono.
Tetapi carilah pelajaran-pelajaran itu dari sumber kita yang sedia ada.
IA ILMU YANG BERMANFAAT
Sunnah mengajar kita bagaimana ketika Aisyah Radhiyallahu ‘anha berada dalam keadaan berhadas besar (berhaidh), Nabi Muhammad Sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam meminta Aisyah memakai pakaian yang khusus agar baginda dapat bermesra dengan isterinya tanpa melanggar batas-batas syara’. Malah Baginda sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam juga pernah mencium isteri baginda ketika berpuasa.
Hal-hal ini terakam dengan baik di dalam Sunnah Nabi sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam.
Mereka yang belajar Sunan Sittah akan pasti bertemu dengan banyak riwayat berkaitan dengan peraturan dan hubungan intimasi di antara baginda sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam dengan isterinya. Kesemuanya diceritakan dengan penuh tertib dan adab, tersedia sebagai ilmu yang bermanfaat untuk suami dan isteri.
Antara contoh buku yang baik, mengumpulkan hal-hal yang sebegini, adalah buku The Muslim Family Vol. 2: Closer Than A Garment: Marital Intimacy According to the Pure Sunnah oleh Muhammad al-Jibaly.
Mungkin banyak lagi pilihan yang ada, namun kita harus berusaha mencari, menyaring dan menapisnya. Perlu saya ingatkan, budaya melucahkan seks masih menebal di dalam masyarakat kita, maka buku-buku yang kononnya bertujuan membimbing pasangan yang berkahwin mengikut lunas Islam, ia ditulis dengan bahasa-bahasa songsang yang menimbulkan keaiban.
BERCAKAP TENTANG SEKS DENGAN PASANGAN
Justeru dalam keterbatasan sumber yang membelenggu kita, kaedah terbaik ialah dengan berbincang dan bercakap dengan pasangan masing-masing tentang keinginan suami dan isteri. Jangan terasa aib untuk berbincang dengan isteri berkenaan dengan perkara-perkara yang boleh membantu suami memenuhi keinginan dirinya, selagi mana hal ini berada dalam lingkungan keharusan syara’. Tanyalah suami, apakah bentuk layanan yang beliau mahukan agar keinginan dapat ditunaikan, tanpa perlu beliau itu liar kemahuannya meninggalkan yang halal mencari yang haram.
Jangan pula begitu selamba berlawak dan bersembang lucah di tempat kerja, tetapi malu dengan pasangan sendiri! Kalau dengan kawan bukan main lagi, tetapi dengan suami sendiri atau isteri sendiri, terasa beku, kaku dan buntu. Jika Islam melarang suami isteri bercakap tentang seks semasa ihram, ertinya di luar ihram, jadikanlah seks sebagai sebahagian daripada perkara yang diperkatakan antara suami dan isteri.
Jangan lucah di daerah yang haram, terpinga-pinga di medan yang halal. Nanti dilaknat Tuhan!
Saya mengingkari perbuatan suami yang menyelesaikan krisis rumahtangganya dengan maksiat. Malah juga berpoligami secara semberono tanpa usul periksa. Tetapi sebelum kesalahan keretakan rumahtangga banyak dibebankan ke atas suami, bagaimana pula dengan kesungguhan isteri berperanan dalam memelihara hubungannya dengan suami?
Semoga jangan kesedaran ini hanya timbul, selepas pelacur Siam muncul!
Moga dilindungi Allah dari bencana sedemikian rupa, Ameen.

MUAZ!

Assalamualaikum..

Suheimy need to work late last tuesday and i had to bring Muaz to the office for maghrib prayers. Well, look at him playing on my cubicles and behind my PC! The monitor terbalik twice and i don't even want to describe what happens to the pens and files. :)

Open house

Tuan rumah yang pakai tudung bunga kaler pink tu..

Assalamualaikum wbt,

today we went to Pn shaharimin's open house... byk sgt makanan! laksa penang, mihun utara, roti jala, etc etc... wah2.. meriah!

actually rasanya puan takde la beria nak buat open house, tapi staf2 dia yang over mintak open house.. hehe..

Muaz is 10 months old!!

Gambar @ my desktop, sebenarnye nak tunjuk tickers muaz tu..

Assalamualaikum,

I was supposed to post this yesterday, since Muaz was born on the 14th. Well, sorry Muaz, tak sempat la semlm. Anyway, my manja is already 10 months old! yeaa..

Progress:

1. Dah boleh duduk sendiri
2. Dah boleh buat gaya merangkak (tapi belum merangkak lagi.. gaya je lebih..;)
3. Dah panjat tangga (smpai 6 anak tangga!)
4. Belum ada gigi
5. Makin byk vocab (baby vocab la..)

Mudah2han dipermudahkanNya segala urusan Muaz. Ameen..

COLD!!

Assalamualaikum wbt,





Sejuk betul kat office nie sampai tak leh nak berpikir rasanye.. huhu.. tu yang break kejap nie.


I found this article about reduce chances of miscarriege after seeing fetal heartbeat. Igtkan confirm reduce chances of miscarriage, rupanye tak la.. anyway, quoting my gyne "Just think happy thought!!" so, tak nak la pk2 pasal nie.. huhu.. *tp cuak jgk la...*

Anyway, nie gambar muaz yang sgt ceria time tgh tunggu abah dia kat lobi menara, nampak sgt takde gigi kan?! :)

Muaz in the office!

Muaz is in the office! :)

first time muaz naik office aku. Mlm nie abah dia lambat, after maghrib katanya..huhu...

Long Journey

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Last weekend is very tiring. We had a very long journey. The journey begins on Thursday after office hour, we drove back to Kuantan - my little brother was in kuantan to visit my sister, i haven't seen him in months since he is staying overseas.

Then on friday around 11.30 am, we got news that my "mok" (my last grandmother - from my family's side) passed away. We hurriedly packed our things and drove to Kota Bharu. Unfortunately we arrive just a little over 1 hour late - tak sempat tgk muka mok utk kali terakhir. *sob*

On sunday our journey continue - going back to KL. Total KM covered in 3.5 days appxmt 1200KM.

*I don't like travelling*

Muaz baru bangun tido in his car seat :)

BBQ @ Kelana Jaya

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Last weekend we when to a birthday party of a friend. To an apt (or is it kondo?) @ kelana jaya. I can't remember the apt's name but i really like the atmosphere there, the BBQ was held at the park, and there are lot of cool amenities such as swimming pool (for kids & adult), gym, stores, nice landscape and so on. and i think it is well maintained too.. :)

here is some of the pictures (unfortunately you can't really see the scenery there, more on muaz only :)

Muaz tak pakai baju coz tgh demam panas :)

Assalaualaikum wbt,

Muaz demam! last weekend muaz demam panas for the first time.. huhu. Cuak la kitaorg yang takde experience nie... suhu paling tinggi 38.9 pada jumaat mlm sabtu. tu pun aku rase sbb aku tertido and tak letak air kat kepala dia.. hehe.. apa la mama muaz niee...

Anyway, pepagi terus bawak pi klinik and alhamdulillah by isnin tu dah ok dah.. yeay!

Update on Muaz

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Halu.. today is "Hari Malas Sedunia" hehe.. very unmotivated since today is monday, today i have my 1st night class this sem, and today i have stomach pain! huhu... not a very good start this week. However since i;m gonna take a long leave (10-15 July) balik kelate.. Yeay! so need to pressure my self and do all my works otherwise it will be a haunting holiday ;)

Now, Muaz since last Saturday baru berjaya meniarap and ke depan.. punye la susah nengok dia angkat bontotnye.. hehe... sooo comel. Nanti nak amik video.

This is Muaz latest pic! :)

lilcaliph contest!

Assalamualaikum wbt,

We are one of the semi finalist in lilcaliph contest! yeay! :) Hopefully kawan-kawan can support by casting your votes to us.

You can vote by clicking here. Our picture is # 13 title Muaz & daddy. Just click on the stars to vote.

By the way, iff you want to visit lilcaliph website go to here

Thanksss :)

Muaz posing...

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Hari nie pagi2 lagi dah HAPPY coz nampak gambar muaz kat fotopages kc! Gambar time kitaorg pg outdoor photoshoot @ bukit Jalil on 18th May lepas. Tak sabar nak tgk seme gambar2 tu..

KC, cepat la upload gambar! huhu... :)

Btw, kalau korang nak beroutdoor potrait, visit la website KC, cantik wooo gambar2 dia!! Visit her fotopages.

Outstation..

suamiku yg macho ;)

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Huhu... Suheimy outstation! At times like this I sometimes feels like i'm taking my hubby's presence for granted. When he is around i don't have to think about taking out the garbage, pasang ubat nyamuk, kunci pintu, bukak pintu pagar, angkat barang masuk kereta.. and the list goes on.. but since yesterday, seme kene buat sendiri... huhu...


I rarely says thank you for all the great2 things you've brought into my live sayang. But I know that you know how much you meant to me. :)


Huhu... rindu suamiku!! Come back home fast ye sayang.. :(

My good friend "turtle"

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Today, somehow tetiba nama "Rahmatul Naain" comes into my mind. Rindu betul rasa kat kawan baik time sekolah menengah nie. Kitaorg panggil dia "Turtle"... for no apparent reason... tak igt dah kenapa panggil dia turtle.. Btw, dia comel tau, not at all like a turtle :D
so, i end up Google her name and guess what?! i found her! immediately emailed her. Tried to call her office but no answer (ye la time nie opis dah tutup laa..)
Hopefully it's a valid email address.

So to "Turtle": Reply la email! lama betul tak dgr citer.. huhu...

I'm sad..

I'm sad coz i miss my muaz.

I'm sad coz i want to go home early.

I'm sad coz i there's nothing i can do to correct this.

..... still at the office.......

Mother's Day

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Yeaay.. Mother's day is near.. 3 days to go. I miss my mother so much. She is growing older, yet i rarely sees her now, since my parents move to Kelantan. I opposed their decision to move to Kelantan from the beginning, my argument is Kelantan is too far, if they decide to settle down in Kuantan, then we would be seing them every 2-3 months since we always go back to Kuantan, to visit our daugther's grave. *Sigh*

But, lastly i mengalah since, ye la, dah diaorg nak jugak.. we, the children would have to put more effort to go and see them, they are after all the parents! Kekadang aku terpikir, bayangkanlah betapa byknye pengorbanan mama kat aku, dgn pergi hantar sekolah, pegi hantar uni, pg hantar kerja, aku duk kat sekolah asrama dulu berapa byk kali mama n abah datang. aku kat uni pun berapa kali mama n abah dtg, dah kerja and kawin pun datang jugak lagi tgk aku.

Aku nie, nak ambik cuti and balik kampung pun nak berkira. Patut ke camtu?! Mmg la sibuk, byk aktiviti, time weken la nak rehat.. etc..etc.. abih tu, mak abah kita dulu tak ke camtu jugak? mereka pun mesti penat and nak rehat, tapi demi anak boleh je berkorban... huhu.. rindu mama!

Teringat kata-kata suamiku masa kami mula-mula kawin "Kalau aeimy nak pegi tolong mak jaga kedai, ija jgn la sedih. Katakanlah kalau aeimy mati masa on the way nak pg tolong mak jaga kedai, aeimy harap aeimy mati syahid". Syahid kerana niat tolong mak kerana Allah. Anak lelaki, mesti lah lebihkan mak dulu baru isteri, ye tak? Mudah-mudahan hati aku sentiasa redha menerima hakikat ini.. :)

Yes, mak mentua ialah ibu kita jugak, treat them sama macam mak kita. I love my mother and i love my mother is law too. :)

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY MAMA & MAK!!

p/s: nak letak gambar mama & mak, tapi takde plak kat dlm pc opis nie.. so buh gambar muaz la.. (err..tak tau la ape kaitannye..hehe :)