and i quote " a radical discourse"

Assalamualaikum wbt,

I've read an interesting speech by a singaporean whom is a renowed author (according to the blog owner of where this text was taken - mr Jep) . I've enjoyed the speech, hope you enjoyed it as much as i did.
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Written by Adrian Tan, author of The Teenage Textbook (1988), was the guest-of-honor at a recent NTU convocation ceremony.

This was his speech to the graduating class of 2008.

I must say thank you to the faculty and staff of the Wee Kim Wee School of Communication and Information for inviting me to give your convocation address. It’s a wonderful honour and a privilege for me to speak here for ten minutes without fear of contradiction, defamation or retaliation. I say this as a Singaporean and more so as a husband.


My wife is a wonderful person and perfect in every way except one. She is the editor of a magazine. She corrects people for a living. She has honed her expert skills over a quarter of a century, mostly by practising at home during conversations between her and me.

On the other hand, I am a litigator. Essentially, I spend my day telling people how wrong they are. I make my living being disagreeable.

Nevertheless, there is perfect harmony in our matrimonial home. That is because when an editor and a litigator have an argument, the one who triumphs is always the wife.

And so I want to start by giving one piece of advice to the men: when you’ve already won her heart, you don’t need to win every argument.

Marriage is considered one milestone of life. Some of you may already be married. Some of you may never be married. Some of you will be married. Some of you will enjoy the experience so much, you will be married many, many times. Good for you.

The next big milestone in your life is today: your graduation. The end of education. You’re done learning.

You’ve probably been told the big lie that “Learning is a lifelong process” and that therefore you will continue studying and taking masters’ degrees and doctorates and professorships and so on. You know the sort of people who tell you that? Teachers. Don’t you think there is some measure of conflict of interest? They are in the business of learning, after all. Where would they be without you? They need you to be repeat customers.

The good news is that they’re wrong.

The bad news is that you don’t need further education because your entire life is over. It is gone. That may come as a shock to some of you. You’re in your teens or early twenties. People may tell you that you will live to be 70, 80, 90 years old. That is your life expectancy.

I love that term: life expectancy. We all understand the term to mean the average life span of a group of people. But I’m here to talk about a bigger idea, which is what you expect from your life.

You may be very happy to know that Singapore is currently ranked as the country with the third highest life expectancy. We are behind Andorra and Japan, and tied with San Marino. It seems quite clear why people in those countries, and ours, live so long. We share one thing in common: our football teams are all hopeless. There’s very little danger of any of our citizens having their pulses raised by watching us play in the World Cup. Spectators are more likely to be lulled into a gentle and restful nap.

Singaporeans have a life expectancy of 81.8 years. Singapore men live to an average of 79.21 years, while Singapore women live more than five years longer, probably to take into account the additional time they need to spend in the bathroom.

So here you are, in your twenties, thinking that you’ll have another 40 years to go. Four decades in which to live long and prosper.

Bad news. Read the papers. There are people dropping dead when they’re 50, 40, 30 years old. Or quite possibly just after finishing their convocation. They would be very disappointed that they didn’t meet their life expectancy.

I’m here to tell you this. Forget about your life expectancy.

After all, it’s calculated based on an average. And you never, ever want to expect being average.

Revisit those expectations. You might be looking forward to working, falling in love, marrying, raising a family. You are told that, as graduates, you should expect to find a job paying so much, where your hours are so much, where your responsibilities are so much.

That is what is expected of you. And if you live up to it, it will be an awful waste.

If you expect that, you will be limiting yourself. You will be living your life according to boundaries set by average people. I have nothing against average people. But no one should aspire to be them. And you don’t need years of education by the best minds in Singapore to prepare you to be average.

What you should prepare for is mess. Life’s a mess. You are not entitled to expect anything from it. Life is not fair. Everything does not balance out in the end. Life happens, and you have no control over it. Good and bad things happen to you day by day, hour by hour, moment by moment. Your degree is a poor armour against fate.

Don’t expect anything. Erase all life expectancies. Just live. Your life is over as of today. At this point in time, you have grown as tall as you will ever be, you are physically the fittest you will ever be in your entire life and you are probably looking the best that you will ever look. This is as good as it gets. It is all downhill from here. Or up. No one knows.

What does this mean for you? It is good that your life is over.

Since your life is over, you are free. Let me tell you the many wonderful things that you can do when you are free.

The most important is this: do not work.

Work is anything that you are compelled to do. By its very nature, it is undesirable.

Work kills. The Japanese have a term “Karoshi”, which means death from overwork. That’s the most dramatic form of how work can kill. But it can also kill you in more subtle ways. If you work, then day by day, bit by bit, your soul is chipped away, disintegrating until there’s nothing left. A rock has been ground into sand and dust.

There’s a common misconception that work is necessary. You will meet people working at miserable jobs. They tell you they are “making a living”. No, they’re not. They’re dying, frittering away their fast-extinguishing lives doing things which are, at best, meaningless and, at worst, harmful.

People will tell you that work ennobles you, that work lends you a certain dignity. Work makes you free. The slogan “Arbeit macht frei” was placed at the entrances to a number of Nazi concentration camps. Utter nonsense.

Do not waste the vast majority of your life doing something you hate so that you can spend the small remainder sliver of your life in modest comfort. You may never reach that end anyway.

Resist the temptation to get a job. Instead, play. Find something you enjoy doing. Do it. Over and over again. You will become good at it for two reasons: you like it, and you do it often. Soon, that will have value in itself.

I like arguing, and I love language. So, I became a litigator. I enjoy it and I would do it for free. If I didn’t do that, I would’ve been in some other type of work that still involved writing fiction – probably a sports journalist.

So what should you do? You will find your own niche. I don’t imagine you will need to look very hard. By this time in your life, you will have a very good idea of what you will want to do. In fact, I’ll go further and say the ideal situation would be that you will not be able to stop yourself pursuing your passions. By this time you should know what your obsessions are. If you enjoy showing off your knowledge and feeling superior, you might become a teacher.

Find that pursuit that will energize you, consume you, become an obsession. Each day, you must rise with a restless enthusiasm. If you don’t, you are working.

Most of you will end up in activities which involve communication. To those of you I have a second message: be wary of the truth. I’m not asking you to speak it, or write it, for there are times when it is dangerous or impossible to do those things. The truth has a great capacity to offend and injure, and you will find that the closer you are to someone, the more care you must take to disguise or even conceal the truth. Often, there is great virtue in being evasive, or equivocating. There is also great skill. Any child can blurt out the truth, without thought to the consequences. It takes great maturity to appreciate the value of silence.

In order to be wary of the truth, you must first know it. That requires great frankness to yourself. Never fool the person in the mirror.

I have told you that your life is over, that you should not work, and that you should avoid telling the truth. I now say this to you: be hated.

It’s not as easy as it sounds. Do you know anyone who hates you? Yet every great figure who has contributed to the human race has been hated, not just by one person, but often by a great many. That hatred is so strong it has caused those great figures to be shunned, abused, murdered and in one famous instance, nailed to a cross.

One does not have to be evil to be hated. In fact, it’s often the case that one is hated precisely because one is trying to do right by one’s own convictions. It is far too easy to be liked, one merely has to be accommodating and hold no strong convictions. Then one will gravitate towards the centre and settle into the average. That cannot be your role. There are a great many bad people in the world, and if you are not offending them, you must be bad yourself. Popularity is a sure sign that you are doing something wrong.

The other side of the coin is this: fall in love.

I didn’t say “be loved”. That requires too much compromise. If one changes one’s looks, personality and values, one can be loved by anyone.

Rather, I exhort you to love another human being. It may seem odd for me to tell you this. You may expect it to happen naturally, without deliberation. That is false. Modern society is anti-love. We’ve taken a microscope to everyone to bring out their flaws and shortcomings. It far easier to find a reason not to love someone, than otherwise. Rejection requires only one reason. Love requires complete acceptance. It is hard work – the only kind of work that I find palatable.

Loving someone has great benefits. There is admiration, learning, attraction and something which, for the want of a better word, we call happiness. In loving someone, we become inspired to better ourselves in every way. We learn the truth worthlessness of material things. We celebrate being human. Loving is good for the soul.

Loving someone is therefore very important, and it is also important to choose the right person. Despite popular culture, love doesn’t happen by chance, at first sight, across a crowded dance floor. It grows slowly, sinking roots first before branching and blossoming. It is not a silly weed, but a mighty tree that weathers every storm.

You will find, that when you have someone to love, that the face is less important than the brain, and the body is less important than the heart.

You will also find that it is no great tragedy if your love is not reciprocated. You are not doing it to be loved back. Its value is to inspire you.

Finally, you will find that there is no half-measure when it comes to loving someone. You either don’t, or you do with every cell in your body, completely and utterly, without reservation or apology. It consumes you, and you are reborn, all the better for it.

Don’t work. Avoid telling the truth. Be hated. Love someone.
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Pretty much makes you re-thinks about life eh? :)

I imagine my ethic's lecturer mr Cyril would like this speech.

My 31st Birthday.

Assalamualaikum wbt,

This year my birthday fell on Friday. So I've decided to take half day leave only - leceh nak dating then break solat jumaat. But Suheimy took the whole day off, his morning was filled with errands for the house :)

We went out around 2.40 pm from the office. Don't really know where to go since we missed wayang which starts at 2.15 pm.

I wanted to eat Chinese food @ Shah Alam - Restoran Mukmin, but the place opened at 4 pm on Friday. Since it is already nearly 3pm, we decided to head straight to Shah Alam. Sesat2 sikit, but arrived at destination @ 3.30 pm. To kill the time while waiting for the restaurant to open, and since it is just a row of shop outlets, we went to 2 hardware stores, i went to the loo of a clinic and then we went inside a bookstore cum misc store.

Well, it's the first birthday we celebrated without watching movie and dating/ window shopping in a shopping mall. But i kind of like it. We had a good undisturbed conversation with each other and laughed at the fact that he brought me to a hardware store on my birthday - bought a baldi and a penyapu lidi. :)

Thanks sayang. Looking fwd for many more nice and memorable celebration with you, insyaAllah.

oh, and i got charming lilies delivered to my office + a wonderful card.

31 weeks

Assalamualaikum wbt,

I am currently @ 31 weeks pregnant. Anak dlm perut saya sgt suka buat summersault berpusing. My tummy is quite tight already, maka it is quite uncomfortable when she does that.. huhu

*just a luahan perasaan by a heavily pregnant mother*

Hectic Weekend

Assalamualaikum wbt,

My weekend was full! My sister and my brother came. The kids had a blast, but the parents were pancit. Penat la mengejar budak2, especially us since our kids are the smallest bunch, hence needs constant observation, their cousins are bigger so my brother and sister takde la nak pengsan sgt. huhu..

Anyway, all worth it when i look at these pictures, Muaz really enjoys himself. He even went to bed at 2 am, the other cousins only sleeps in araound 4 am ++. I really don't know how they managed to stay awake.

 painting session

 makan maggie session

bergambar session













and on sunday ujan lebat kat rumah, i went looking for muaz, tgk2, tgh main hujan with his cousins... with daddy looking after smbil baca paper atas pangkin. Pasrah sungguh. Asked lia to goreng pisang and i made same hot tea. best makan goreng pisang panas + teh o panas. Sekejap je habis 2 ikat pisang goreng :D

Oh, this is the first time we are introducing our pangkin. as i told hubby, mmg berbaloi beli, money very much worth spent! We like to sit there in the morning (kalau bgn pagi la) and during afternoon - kids play around and us either reading paper or me reading buku cerita (with lots of distractions of course!)

Celebration @ Taska

Assalamualaikum wbt,

actually bukan celebration apa pun, just gathering, his friends sang him birthday song followed by a cake cutting session. then off to dining room to makan the cake.

But, nevertheless, Muaz looks so happy with his Ben 10 cake. Bought choc indulgence cake @ secret Recipe, then edible Ben10 image @ kedai bakery, then I tempek some m&am coklats + cute flags as deco.

wallah, the cake!

Besday boy and friends - same class



The besday boy - Muaz nie sebenarnya quite a shy person tau! Ikut mak dia kot.. haha








Lastly.. with mama & abah!



Happy 3rd Birthday Muhammad Muaz

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Today is Muaz's 3rd birthday. We are supposed to have a simple celebration at Taska today, but since Mak Dah (one of Muaz's teacher) is on leave and K ida tgh sarat pregnant, the celebration is postponed to esok.

Anyway, pejam celik, dah 3 years we are blessed with a child in this world. I can still remember the agony and pain we felt when we are struggling to deal with our twins passing and the emotional journey to conceive again after that.

In a way, Muaz was like a very powerful pain killers, the pain of losing Amni Izzah & Amni Izzati is still there, but was very much relieved when we have Muhammad Muaz. Alhamdulillah.

Again, we pray that our friends who is still struggling with the journey of becoming a parents will be strong and hopefully they will have a child of their own soon. Mudah-mudahan dipermudahkanNya. ameen.

Happy Birthday our superb pain killer! We love and adore you so very much!

*Muaz @ 5 months old

Random

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Last nite, otw to the airport to sent my mother

Muaz: Wan demam, tak payah pg school... tp pg giant boleh!
Wan: hmm..

The other day, at the hall watching TV

Muaz: Mama, tgk muaz makan (nganga mulut and jelir lidah)
Mama: apa tu?
Muaz: Semut..
Mama: eii.. mana blh makan semut!
Muaz: aaa... semut tak blh makan? Ayam dgn nasi boleh?
Mama: Ayam dgn nasi boleh. Semut tak boleh.
Muaz: Ni... semut yang ni tak boleh makan? (tunjuk another semut yang tgh lari menyelamatkan diri)
Mama: aah, tak boleh.

and many2 more nice conversation with Muaz. Sometimes i feel likes our toddler is growing wayyy to fast la.

Sweet suprise

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Just now, Suheimy called me and said "Aeimy kat luar office ija nie"

Since before that i have been nagging him about dah lama tak dpt suprise, so i already suspected something.

He was standing outside my office door with a slice of chocolate indulgence cake + San francissco coffee.......surprise!

but out of all days... today i am fasting!! Pose ganti plak tu.. huhu..

I gave him the coffee, but i took the cake.. kang habis plak aeimy makan :P

Thanks sayang!! :D

harry potter!

Assalamualaikum wbt,

I want to go and watch a movie with En Hubby. But cuti dah sikittt and there are other chores to be done that need AL allocation.

Dah lama tak pi dating berdua dgn hubby... huhu...

Tak nak coklat, nak buku.

Assalamualaikum wbt,

I was amazed this morning.

Muaz was moody since he slept in the car all the way to the parking. so when i woke him up, i tried to pujuk him and said we will go to the kedai and buy some chocholate before going to school so that he can eat it with his friends.

At mynews.com

Me: Jom sayang, nak beli apa kat kedai. Coklat nie nak? ( showing him some M&Ms)
Muaz: Tak nak coklat.
Me: Muaz nak apa? Air susu coklat nak?
Muaz: Tak nak coklat, nak buku.
Me: *nganga* Ok, buku Mickey Mouse and Little Einstain ek.
Muaz: *Angguk and took the book to the cashier*

His mood returned and he walks willingly to school then. Alhamdulillah, hopefully sampai besar suka baca buku ye.

Luckily mynews.com store at my office sells kids Disney magazines. Otherwise, takkan aku nak belikan majalah like pa&ma to Muaz? hehe..

Wrestling

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Yup, my kids can now wrestle with each other. If Nadrah is on top, then the wresling event will go smoothly i.e. no tears shed. Kalau muaz yang kat atas, hmm.. kejap je la, Nadrah will cry, ye la, sapa blh tahan14kg on top of you! :)

Well, asalkan nobody gets hurt, i don't really mind, i'm considering this as part of their learning process.. ahaha... (actually, tak larat nak jadi refereee daa...).

momad

assalamualaikum wbt,

Nadrah dah pandai panggil abang dia, but she calls him "MOMAD". ok la tu, since kitaorg pun selalu panggil muaz by his first name "Muhammad" :)

This morning she said, " momad tido". Its a joy to see the development of your kids kan?

New stock

Assalamualaikum,

Business has been slow, not because less customer, but less available item for sale. We've been busy, hence tak sempat amik stock.

Anyway, we have added new items! please do visit bunny n teddy store!

among new items - new busha design



new item - Tudung for toodlers:



model ialah Ms Anisah (anak CT zuraimah :). Thanks!

Will upload nadrah wearing tudung later!..

Abah mana?

Assalamualaikum wbt,

I remembered 1 day, i was driving home alone with the kids due to suheimy was working late.

Me: Abah balik lambat hari nie
Muaz: Bukan, abah ade kat rumah
Me: tak, abah ade keje, dia balik lambat. Abah kat opis
Muaz: Bukan, abah ade kat rumah ade fish ( he insisted on this)

when we arrive at home

Muaz: mama, mana abah?
Me: Abah kat office sayang, abah lambat.

Muaz cried immediately when i carried him out of the car. He cried at the porch and keeps asking "abah mana?"

I called suheimy and he talked to Muaz to calm him down.

The kids love their abah so much. And we do miss you so much when you are busy sayang.

Hopefully your work runs smoothly and the project will conclude fast so that you don't have to stay late everyday.

Hopefully all this is worthwhile.

Fomema

Assalamulaikum wbt,

Wowwi, it turns out that there are a lot of things you need to do (and money you need to invest) once you have a maid. Today i went to fomema to get the letter for health check up (RM 190). Then need to bring Lia..yup, this is my maid's name... her name is Elyana (my sister said nama dia lagi canggih dari nama i or my doters) need to bring lia to the clinic, X- ray and stuff. Then wait for the approval (need to check online) then have to go to imigration back to get some stickers.

Err.. what about the temporary id cards ek? still need to google about the ID card for lia.

My kids call her "Cik Lia". Muaz is friendly towards her, whenever she went to sidai kain, muaz would follow and if you ask him who's at the house, he already includes cik lia's name in the list.

Nadrah? Tgk je boleh, pegang.. NO NO NO. :)

Well, hopefully Nadrah will learn to likes Cik Lia too. and hopefully she'll be maid yang terbaik utk kami sekeluarga. ameen.

Maid

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Today we're going to get our maid. I am a bit scared, don't know what to expect yet. Hopefully everything goes well and Allah makbulkan my doa "Ya Allah, mudah-mudahan bibik ini yang terbaik utk keluarga kami" ameen.

* i'm not used to having strangers living together with us, but i can't afford to do all the housework on my own anymore.. huhu  *sigh*

Mandi

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Last time I've post a picture of muhammad muaz taking his bath in his so called bath tub; which is the Baldi.

And now, both of my kids like to bath in the baldi :)

Cuci kolam

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Last weekend suheimy cleaned our fish pond due to it was clogged with stones. Budak2 ni throw stones into the pond, tak tau la during my open house hari tu or mmg daily activities of my own kids..sian ikan2 tu.

Anyway, the process was long and tedious, he started at 9 am and only finishes around 4 pm - with some break in betweens la..

 Can you see muaz? he really2 wanted to go into the pond :)

I laid a tikar at the porch so that the kids can have a break too during the process, nasib baik la porch tu ade kipas, best jugak la baring sambil minum susu.

Jamuan Raya Taska TM

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Went to Jamuan raya taska TM just now, it was meriah and there were lots of food. I was among the earliest at the dining table as i wanted to grab a KFC before habis... sib baik dpt seketul.

Suheimy was there too, Muaz was having a blast with us and after he got bored waiting for us to finish eating, he went to play with his friends.

And I think Muaz was the only one whose not wearing baju raya, sorry la Muaz, mama tak tau plak kena bawak baju raya.. huhu..

I really wish Nadrah was here, she would have enjoyed the event very much.. huhu.. sian adik nadrah. Takpelah, next year ek! :)

Open house + Raya

ASsalamualaikum wbt,

I really2 want to update about our hari raya and our open house. But tak best la update without pictures kan.

I did not manage to snap any pictures during the open house - super duper bizi since masak sendiri and alhamdulillah ramai org datang. But i noticed some of my friends and relatives ada snap gambar. Please share with me the pictures yeeeeee....

As for hari raya, somebody (by somebody, i mean muaz or nadrah la kan) must have changed our camera setup, so all the pictures were blur and shaking. so kitaorg takde raya pictures - i need to get the pictures from my sister's camera... huhu..

adik, if you are reading this, email la kat k ja gambar2 rayeee...

Baju melayu 2

assalamualaikum wbt,

In conjuction with my previous blog entry... this is the picture of en hubby in baju melayu on that day.

haven't had the time to update my raya and open house entry yet.. 

Baju Melayu

assalamualaikum wbt.

Today, for the first time since we are married, my hubby wore a complete set of baju melayu (beserta sampin and songkok) to the office - ada jamuan raya katanye, En Rafaii suh seme pakai baju melayu.

Ye ke yang? jgn pakai baju melayu pg masjid ade majlis lain plak.. huhu..

Lately a bit saiko sbb selalu dgr kisah org kawin 2 then kantoi. Men can be very creative in leading double life! bab2 nak romantic dgn isteri tak creative plak! huhu.. except for my hubby la.. err.. ade gak la kekadang dia creative ;)

 And to make it worse, usually during my pregnancy period, i am a bit unsecure + selalu mimpi ngarut pasal hubby n org lain. huhu...

oh and to make is much more worse, ade plak la lagi "Disana menunggu Disini Menanti" by Ukays in the radio this morning... budak2 batch saya tau la kot lagu nie, nyampah tau dgr lagu nieee... huhu

tak nak kawan, nak merajuk! -_-

p/s: pregnant women are allowed to be emotional without any reason or warning ye..huhu

Selamat hari raya!

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Entry tak related to title.

During our solat terawih, the kids will be playing all over the hall.

Muaz tgh prepare nak naik motor

Ha, inilah motornye! huhu, jimat our belanja, no need to buy an actual motor.

and this is muaz changing the motor's tyres. :)

another one of their favourite game is... playing behind the curtain.

tak tau la apa yang seronoknye.. :)

Anyway, to those who reads this Blog, Have a happy hari raya and hopefully you arrive at your kampung safely. Maaf zahir batin ya.

Late

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Bulan pose, office hour starts at 8am - 4.30 pm.

Tp saya baru sekali berjaya sampai before 8 am.

Sorry ms Boss.. huhu... believe me, i am trying..

Looking fwd for break-fast

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Today i want to cook for buka puasa

• ikan senangin masak asam pedas + self grown bendi (ada 6 ketul)
• Sup sayur sawi + ayam byk2 - kids menu
• goreng ikan kering talam berlada utk penyedap rasa
• Lauk top-up beli kat office - sambal tumis ikan bilis + petai

For dessert, i've bought:

• apple pie - 1 slice
• roti krim ( teringin punye pasal)
• mee goreng

Ok tak yang?

Usually in our house, we always ate everything sampai licin - thus the reason why i don't usually masak byk2. selalunya masak just nice for 1 time makan. Next makan time either masak lain or eat outside :)

Conversation with Muaz

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Muaz have grown so much, he can now speaks clearly and it is very easy to understand what he said. Alhamdulillah, kurang sgt pelatnya.

This morning he woke up very early - 6.30 am sbb dia bocor. So i bathed him and masa nak pakai baju:

Muaz: Mama, nak baju Ben10
Mama: ok, jap mama amik

I took a sleveless Ben10 t-shirt for him:

Muaz: Mama, baju Ben10 ketiak.  
Mama: Aah, Baju Ben10 sleeveless. :)

Kids are very dynamic and a very fast learner kan? There a many many conversation as simple yet interesting as this with Muaz everyday now. I wish i can jot everything down.. tp tak sempat la... :)

Tak sabar nak tunggu nadrah start cakap. for now her vocab is limited to:

1. Nak
2. nanak! (Tak nak)
3. Bukak
4. Nah!
5. mama
6. abah
7. adah (Nadrah)
8. Adek

KONVO UM 2010

Assalamualaikum wbt,

At looonnggg last, I've managed to finish my MBA. After 3 years of sweat and blood (betul ada blood ok, i beranak 2 org during my master program), akhirnya alhamdulillah, settle. :)

My parents and siblings came to KL for my convo, well actually my parents came for the convo, my siblings came coz mama paksa to celebrate birthday Abah.. hehe...

before the convo, we had family gatherings for birthday abah:

lots of food. my sister yang jadi chef masak nasik minyak, ayam kurma, daging kerutuk, etc etc.

I tolong order kek and buat acar je :)










The convo day:

kecoh coz i did not see the vidoe of how to wear the robe. I did not know it was so complicated! huhu...

my mama and abah - always sedondon + my MIL :)

me and my beloved hubby! kids? hantar bbsitter semua since my session was afternoon + takut depa moody.

That's me! tgh tersengih lebar to Raja Nazri, UM's Pro Chansellor.

It was a great day. Thanks all for the support.. especially to my family and my kids. Hopefully their sacrifices will enable me to make better changes for our family. insyaAllah. :)

Today is a GREAT day!

Assalamualaikum wbt,

Today's title has nothing to do with this entry. I just want to put the TEAMING with PASSION poster's message as my title now. It's a very good training session and i'm sure these empowerement short words will help us becoming a better us. :)

This morning, Nadrah was up early and gave the fishes their brekfast. Sabo je la fish2 tu coz my anak dara akan bagi sebiji by sebiji. Last2 kitaorg tolong tuangkan makanan fish tu..

She is very happy to feed the fish calmly. Biasanya akan berebut dgn Muaz.

Can you see the fish? Ikan koi. Dah besar2... 1ft ++.. we bought it from the original owner :)














The dawai net was put on by my father. He was sooo worried the kids would jump into the pond. Nanti la dah ade duit we'll do it properly.

WAHM

Assalamualaikum wbt,

A friend of mine resign (or is it VSS) from TM. I just found out not too long ago. She is now a WAHM, have her own online stores and i guess is currently very happy cuddling with her kids at home + cook homemade meals for her family + gets to raise her child her own way, her own idea and hopes and dreams.

Congrates Tini Dewi. I wish I could someday be like you. InsyaAllah.

Do visit her blog or her online store. I like to support WAHM :)

Dah sampai!

Assalamualaikum wbt,

It has finally arrived. Within 6 working days only! :D

Let the picture explains:

aiseh, nampak tak perutku yang dah start buncit tu.. huhu..

and the star of today's entry:

hadiah convo. Thanks to mama, abah, adik, kak da and of course Suheimy Md yusof :)

P/s: yang, pakai terus boleh ke? ke kena tunggu till convo?.. huhu

BEKU

Assalamualaikum wbt,

My brain is freezing slowly. Office is to d*mn cold.

Nausea

Assalamualaikum wbt,

I have been very weak and nausea this past week. thus, Suheimy is taking over looking after the kids and because of Muaz and his active/ overly galak attitude and Nadrah the manja gal, sampai pening la kepala suheimy menjaga budak2 tu..huhu.. sian hubbyku sayang.

Eventhough it is VERY tiring taking care of the two kids, i think we would never trade this all with anything. We have experience living together, just the two of us, for nearly 4 years, until muaz and soon after that Nadrah comes along. Some quiet time just the two of us is good, but happy and tiring times with the kids are way better :)

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On a different note, a friend of mine forwarded this blog to me. Its about her daugther journey. She was sick and their struggle when they lost her. And there's other link to other blogs regarding their journey with their sick children.

I know how it felt to loose your child. Memanglah they went to a much2 better place, tp, peritnya kita yang still kat dunia nak terima... Those who have a sick child, mudah2an dipermudahkan urusan mereka, mudah2an hati2 mereka sentiasa tenang and redha.

*Penat2 kami jaga anak, at least budak2 tu sihat. Janganla kami diuji dgn anak sakit, tak sanggup lagi rasanya.

Blessed!

Assalamualaikum wbt,

It has been nearly a month since i last updated my Blog.

Lots of news, lots of story and pictures to share.

But, the most important is:

We only found out last 2 weeks, i was bleeding and still am occasionally.. however, last week check- up showed a very strong heartbeat.. and Dr Idora said the bleeding will go away after 2 weeks and since dah ade heartbeat, insyaAllah everything will be fine :)

A bit early than planned, but, dah rezeki, we'll take it!

A new home, and insyaAllah a new baby. We are so blessed. Alhamdulillah.

Teringin

Assalamualaikum wbt,

I don't like being in a situation where i teringin something. Currently saya teringin nak ini:

COACH KRISTIN GRAPHIC OP ART WITH SEQUINS LARGE WRISTLET

This is my first time teringin item yang saya rase sgt2 mahal. huhu..

Yang.. nak boleh tak?